Amanda Takes Off...

I went and read your wedding review post. It mentioned that the groom did push ups for the bride.

Will good man be doing the same thing?

~Joy

i'm really glad your korean-born immigrant fiance knows what being 'american' means. lord knows at least a dozen of my college professors tried to get us americans to understand what being 'american' was all about :)

snark aside, where are you registered?

If Goodman thinks that's a weird sense of entitlement, how about those couples that ask for cash only. It's like holding the wedding hostage.

Make sure to ask Good Man about after the wedding festivities which involve the groom, a dried fish, the grooms feet/friend and money.

Joy, no, he hates push ups. If anyone would be doing push ups (or sit ups), it would be me. I can out push- and sit- him.

William, my profs were teaching us what it meant to be "female." We're not registered.

Robbin, do you mean couples here or the expectation of cash in Korea?

Jin, I asked him and he swears back and forth he doesn't know what you're talking about...

The American couples who send out invitations that state "In lieu of gifts we ask that our friends and family donate towards our honeymoon/house/new car" etc.

Ahhh, I hate ANY sort of gift comment ANYWHERE on invitations. I don't want to be told no gifts, where someone is registered, cash only, or to donate my money to their pet charities!

I had an invitation stating that there would be a money tree at the reception. It was basically a plant and you had to put your envelope on it. I thought it was very tacky.
I think it is rude to ask for money on the invitation. We usually do end up giving money when we go to Italian or Greek weddings but it is kind of an unspoken rule and it is not stated on the invitation.

Nice post.

God... how many times a month do I say "That's so Korean!"?

Damn, Amanda. It seems like only William got the point of this post. Apparently everyone else is too hung up on the mention of weddings.

Shoosh.

And to clarify for future visitors, Korean wedding presents are money. Only money. Ever (ok... the families have some kind of complex gift-giving ritual that I don't understand, but no one else gives gifts. Registries ARE American, both in spirit and in fact). Usually a little more than the amount it costs for the guest's attendance at the buffet. More if you are close.

I loved getting money from the Indian guests at our wedding in Calcutta. Maa (my husband's mother) specified it as "preferred" on the invitations - and doing so is apparently not tacky at all in India. It's much easier to get money as gifts when you have to fit everything into a few suitcases for the flight back to the States.