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Obvious Spammer [Admin Edit] [Visitor] — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:43:09 +0000

you are good person , you can get well along with your mother-in-law.
Very good posting. I just love it.
Good luck man with your work

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Utah Dentist [Spammer] [Visitor] — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 11:27:58 +0000

Judging from your story, your mother-in-law must be really lucky to have you as a daughter-in-law and you are lucky to have a good man and a good mother-in-law. Not everyone gets that so be proud and happy.

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beret25 [Visitor] — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:37:29 +0000

Your letter was quite refreshing, but all MIL is not like yours, God Bless You! with me I never got that fardue to the fact of greed, disrespect, stubborness, and a mama's boy mentality which I could not accept and the blatant interference into our life to a point where I came to a realization as to why continue this relationship when I know in future this is going to be a no win situation.

Mama's boy refuse to support my decision, in the end both parties demand money for me to end my relationship, well I walked away and never looked back. Several years later he found me and apologise and want to begin again, I told him to go and take a flying leap.

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Gori Girl [Visitor] — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 11:25:53 +0000

This is a really lovely post. My Indian MIL (I'm white) also has an Indian DIL - luckily my husband has a brother - but she never got the Bengali (her particular ethnicity) DIL that I suspect she was hoping for. Nonetheless, we both have made an effort to have a good relationship - our first fews meetings were just like yours: difficulty communicating, both of us worried that we wouldn't get along, and therefore trying really hard to do so nonetheless. Attitude is everything. I'm sure your MIL will greatly appreciate a "fusion" wedding. (And oy vey on the immigration paperwork - if you can afford it at all, get a family immigration lawyer, and be sure to file for a permit to allow your future husband to leave the country will the paperwork is still being processed, 'cause it can take awhile.)

I also have a Korean-American uncle, and my aunt and his mother have always had a good relationship.

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Susie [Visitor] — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 03:36:10 +0000

Hi Amanda, what a great post! Being blessed with a wonderfuly accepting Aussie MIL myself (I am of Sri Lankan heritage), I agree, your MIL is a heroine. It's hard to know how much an MIL is giving up, or how much of an effort they have put into coming half-way to meet us daughters-in-law. Kudos to you for understanding her, and all the best for the future!