The Point of It

A few days ago, I talked to my father. I was telling him a story about Good Man and I said, “He doesn’t only love me, he—”

“He likes you,” Dad said.

“Yes! You understand!”

A lot of couples I encounter or see don’t seem to like each other much, even if they love each other. I have known and worked with women who couldn’t say one nice thing about their husbands or boyfriends. Whine, whine, bitch, bitch. Why stick with him when you obviously don’t like him? “But I love him.”


“Oh, Amanda,” Dad said, “I am so happy for you. I am so happy you’re marrying someone you like, you likes you, and that you love, who loves you.”


Last week, Good Man had a terrible headache while he was at school. I offered to pick him up so he wouldn’t have to deal with the bus. He asked me to bring him something hot—coffee or tea—in his mug.

A mile away from his school, I realized I’d forgotten the hot drink. As soon as he opened up the car door I said, “I forgot your drink. I’m sorry.”

“It’s OK.”

We stopped for gas ($1.95/gallon!) and while the gas was pumping, I ran inside. Good Man looked at my quizzically from the truck, but I didn’t tell him what I was doing.

I came back to the truck and handed him some coffee with amaretto cream in it. “I’m sorry I forgot your coffee. If you had forgotten, I would’ve said, ‘One thing, I asked you to do one thing!’ But you weren’t mad at all. Thank you.”

Good Man laughed, nodded, and sipped his coffee. He closed his eyes, leaned back against the seat. “사랑해.” I love you.

“나도.” I love you, too.

One thought on “The Point of It

  1. Comment from: Diana [Visitor] ·
    you are both VERY lucky to have found each other :)
    11/24/08 @ 03:18

    Comment from: Shelley [Visitor] ·
    Your blog reads like a novel Amanda. I love the way you write and I love how honest you are.
    You ARE lucky to have each other!!

    I love happy endings or shall I say happy beginnings :)
    11/24/08 @ 08:07

    Comment from: Ramsey Papp [Visitor] ·
    It is so great that you can admit that you would have been mad! He seems like such a calm guy all the time. Is it really true?
    11/24/08 @ 10:59

    Comment from: becca [Visitor] ·
    You guys are sweet :)
    11/24/08 @ 11:36

    Comment from: admin [Member] Email
    Diana, and on Seoul CL of all places…

    Shelley, thanks. Writing is such a personal thing…I’m glad to know someone else likes my style.

    Becca, and when we’re alone, too! (Those couples who don’t seem to like each other in public…I shudder to think of what they’re like in private.)

    Ramsey, yeah, he really is that calm. The angriest I’ve ever seen him was over dinner, and that anger was directed at his parents. He is a really laid-back guy. Diana (yes, the one who comments here) once told me that Good Man doesn’t speak often, but when he does, what he says is important. That’s how he is.

    We did have a rough month or so right after we moved in together. I was freaking out over budgets (I hadn’t been paid since EOM May and wouldn’t be paid again until EOM August), Good Man was trying to get used to paying bills, cleaning, the cost of things, etc. But after four to six weeks, things just sort of…fell into place. And it’s been smooth since then.

    And the other great thing is that we laugh together all of the time. I rarely write about what we laugh about. Private jokes are usually too cheesy to go public with, but we laugh about something every day, usually several times a day.
    11/24/08 @ 16:10

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