Mother Wants to Throw Food at Me

Korean wedding ceremonies (폐백/pyaebaek) involve throwing food at the couple.

Last week, when we video-chatted with Mother, she said she didn’t want to throw food at us. Now she’s changed her mind. So apparently Mother and Father are going to throw dates and chestnuts at us. How many we manage to catch in my skirt will determine how many kids we have.

I am having major “oh my God, this is going to be horrible, should I have a white dress, should we be wearing the traditional red and blue wedding hanboks complete with those red face dots, should we actually plan on having dancing” second thoughts about this whole wedding now that we’re three weeks out.

Today Good Man and I went to look for pyebaek stuff. We ended up at a store in Annandale where those cheap hanbok shoes (whould cost about $5-10 in Korea) were…$55. I almost choked. Everything was insanely overpriced. I need a new wallet and coin purse since mine are three years old and totally worn out. They didn’t have the coin purse and wallet was $25 (would run less than $15 in Korea). Luckily, Mother likes me, so she’ll buy me ones in Korea. Ha ha!

We’re supposed to have six different foods for the pyebaek table: something that I think is beef jerky, food to throw at us to determine how many and what gender kids we have, a special decorated chicken, some special rice cakes and vegetables (I think?), Korean snacks, and special alcohol.

Luckily Good Man’s parents don’t really care what we have on the table (as long as we greet them properly and pour them some alcohol and they get to throw food at us, I guess). And we couldn’t find a place with the fancy Korean pyebaek food. So we’re doing a more modern blend of some fruit, rice cakes, Korean snacks, and some sort of Korean alcohol we like.

Beside throwing nuts at dates at us, we’re also “supposed” to do something where Good Man feeds me a date, I keep it between my teeth, and then he goes in for a fake kiss and takes it from my mouth, like I’m a mother bird feeding a baby.

Um. No.

We did find a rice cake house since we’re having rice cakes and cupcakes for dessert. Good Man is nuts. We’re buying five packs of a three different colored slabs of one kind of rice cake (약식). Then we’re buying two trays of a mixture of 꿀떡 and 인절미. Those two trays? Each tray holds two layers of rice cake. Each layer has approximately 75 rice cakes. He ordered two trays of that.

He kept saying everyone will love rice cake and I kept saying, “Foreigners think rice cake tastes like glue. They’ll eat one, maybe two, to be polite.”

He’s going to be eating rice cakes for an entire month.

One thought on “Mother Wants to Throw Food at Me

  1. Comment from: Jonathan in florida [Member] Email ·
    !!!! 3 weeks!
    06/20/09 @ 10:37

    Comment from: Amyable [Visitor]
    Yes, you’re going to have tons of rice cakes left. My hubby, who loves almost every Korean food he’s ever tried, doesn’t like dduk. I think it’s the texture. That chewy consistency with virtually no flavor is probably the cause although my husband can’t seem to articulate that well enough. My brother-in-law doesn’t like them either (also Caucasian).
    06/20/09 @ 15:16

    Comment from: admin [Member] Email
    Jonathan–my thoughts exactly.

    Amyable–I know, it’s that glue texture! And rice cake molds, too. But you know the total cost came in at less than $70 and it wasn’t worth it to argue about it. Ha ha! (After those $55 hanbok shoes, I was expecting the rice cakes to cost a lot more.)
    06/20/09 @ 17:15

    Comment from: Jonathan in florida [Member] Email ·
    I actually didn’t used to like dduk, but now I do, kinda strange, but I like the subtle sweetness of the light brown dusty looking ones. Most (caucasian) people seem to at least like the songpyun-like ones (with honey or sesame fillings) and the italian looking sweet ones (green white pink)… If you invite enough Koreans, I’m sure they’ll take the extras home…
    06/20/09 @ 17:57

    Comment from: Gori Girl [Visitor] ·
    We got pelted with flowers at the end of our Hindu wedding. Which doesn’t sound so bad… but flower buds are pretty hard, especially when thrown by cricket players. And Aditya’s one of the youngest of his generation, so it was pay-back time for all the weddings where he’s thrown flowers at various cousins.
    06/22/09 @ 12:45

    Comment from: admin [Member] Email
    Jonathan, we’re set to have 8 Koreans, 9 if you count me since I can stand rice cake. The total guest count right now is 22, but we’ll probably come in under that.

    Gori, ha ha ha!!
    06/22/09 @ 12:54

    Comment from: Gori Girl [Visitor] ·
    Oh, and +1 for the don’t particularly like Korean rice cakes.
    06/22/09 @ 16:31

    Comment from: admin [Member] Email
    See? Why weren’t you people there with me when I was trying to tell Good Man? Oh well! He’s the one who’ll be eating them for a month…if they don’t mold before then…
    06/22/09 @ 16:48

    Comment from: samedi [Visitor] ·
    I’d help eat the leftover 떡, but I imagine it would be pretty pointless to have it sent over to Korea.
    06/27/09 @ 16:29

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